Unfortunately, it is not unusual in the agricultural world to have disputes, scandals, and even conflicts with those around them. The bulk of these issues are mostly attributed to inadequate communication. This, while crucial, is not easy.
In each sphere of existence, mastering it well is an art. It is one of the biggest challenges in interpersonal relationships, in reality. With wives, families, colleagues, employers, shareholders, and workers, it is omnipresent. But how do we do that when we are conscious that we have to change the way we do it?
Interact with others?
Here are some easy ways to make contact with those around
you easier:
Speak to "The" I
I assume ... I want ... I hope ... speaking to
"I" means speaking on their behalf without giving the other
individual any instructions, without attacking them.
Dispense with interpretations and experiences
I think that's what he means; he looks stupid; he
considers me, I think ... Don't try to guess what that means. It's so
convenient to be mistaken.
Validate the interpretations
You asked me to be on the field at 7:00 a.m. If I
understand right, you'd like to ... go and confirm your perceptions. Specify
them and question what they actually mean to the other person.
Explain the case
That way, I see the situation. I think using this
equipment, this way of doing stuff will be more profitable.
Call your feelings
I am angry; I feel sorry; I don't feel well at all.
Naming your emotions exposes a more fragile and human side of you.
Make obvious requests
This is the contact base. The more concise and
straightforward you are, the less space it takes to perceive, to speculate.
That's not a straightforward request if you say, 'I'm thirsty.' "Say,
instead," May I please have your pen?
Ask instead of making the other guess / don't presume the
Another person knows what you want.
Don't take it for granted that you are heard by the other
guy. The other guy isn't you, he doesn't know what you think. It might seem
obvious from the phrase: "Go and take care of the cows," but it is
quite ambiguous. Pushing the silage, scraping, putting on the shavings,
checking the sun, seeing if the ration is finished can mean taking care of the
cows.
Dream about what's right at the right time
The best time to deal with important matters is not
training time. Alternatively, wait until evening for supper.
Anyone can be effective with a little practice. Know that
interaction is complicated, but it can be strengthened by all.
"A quote sums up this difficulty well:" There
are at least nine ways of not understanding each other between what I think,
what I mean, what I think I say, what I say, what you want to hear, what you
hear, what you think you understand, what you want to understand, and what you
understand. It may seem daunting to communicate well but try anyway. You can
escape a lot of headaches and frustrations.
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