When you take somebody out on a first date, take them somewhere exciting that will get their heart beating such as a roller coaster or horror film. This gets their adrenaline up. It makes them think they enjoy spending time with you rather than the activity.
Asking someone to do you a small favor, trains their brain to believe they like you.
Chewing gum when you’re approaching a situation that would make you nervous like public speaking helps. If we are ‘eating’ something, our brain trips and it reasons “I would not be eating if I were in danger. So I’m not in danger’’.
People are more likely to agree to do a task for you if you ask them to do something simpler first (Gradual commitment makes people think you like them).
Alternatively, you ask them to do an unreasonable task and they’ll say no. So then you should ask for a more reasonable task and they will be more likely to agree.
When laughter breaks out in a group of people, each one will instinctively glance at whichever other individuals they feel closest to in that group. This is a good way of spotting who is closer to whom.
People’s feet are often an insight into what they’re thinking. For example, if you approach two people talking and they turn their torso to you but not their feet, they’d prefer you leave them alone.
Similarly, if you’re talking to someone and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end.
If someone gives you an unsatisfactory answer to a question, stay quiet and keep eye contact and they’ll usually feel pressured to keep talking and reveal more.
The best way to learn is to teach, If you’re acquiring a new skill or piece of knowledge, bore someone else with it at the first opportunity you get.
People will remember not what you said but how you made them feel. Also, most people like talking about themselves so ask lots of questions about them.
Refer to people you’ve just met by their name, people love being referred to by their name, and it will establish a sense of trust and friendship right away. Say your friend introduced you to Mark. After 5 minutes he decides to leave. Don’t just say, “bye”, but instead say “Bye Mark!”
Mirroring people’s body language when you interact with them is a way of building up trust. Just be cautious about it.
If you make the biggest smile you can, you will automatically feel happier. Smile, the world wants it more.
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